Hi — I found this article via your Sprinklr drama and I’m so glad I did. I’m 38 and a half and my husband and I have been trying for 2 years —I’ve been pregnant twice, both miscarriages. I start IVF in April and there’s not one minute of one day I’m not angry and ashamed and terrified. But I somehow ended up in your comment thread because your article spoke to me. The paragraph about feeling superior to your high school friends for getting out of your hometown and now wondering what they know that you don’t...man that hit home for me. I just want to say I feel exactly the same way and this whole thing is hard and it sucks so much and I don’t have a baby yet so I can’t be like “I’m a success story!” but you aren’t alone. And fuck those Sprinklr fucks. I’m @elizabethcauvel on Twitter if you want to be friends.
Having been thru an infertility journey that sounds very similar to this I will say it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I now have a 5 year old so it worked out for me but I was prepared for it to not and finally got to a place of peace about it. Best of luck on this and I hope for the best possible outcome for you and for peace with it. It is incredibly difficult (way more so than the natural childbirth I did later) and isolating. Thanks for sharing that bit of your world
Married at 39, 2 miscarriages, 6 embroys that failed to thrive, one that failed to stick. Depression, heartache, absolute, utter pain. And then suddenly, spontaneously concieve at 43, and then become a mother. It can and does happen. I credit my naturopath and my acupuncturist, and walking out of a toxic job. And tons and tons of inositol. I've literally never said any of this on the internet. Just want you take heart. 2%!!!
I don’t want to say the wrong thing but I want to say so much...The journey is hard but in a very weird way, will bring you closer to yourself and your husband than you ever knew possible. Some of my best, happiest, funniest moments with my husband have been going through our fertility journey together. We laughed so hard at some of the insanity of all of it. Getting up crazy early for daily monitoring, the time I forgot to get the cup in advance so he had to do ‘his part’ at the office, his competitive nature when it comes to how many viable swimmers he has, what we used to call ‘my vagina pills’ because My progesterone was low I had to take it vaginally...lol! I don’t know if it was a conscious decision to ‘make it fun,’ but we did. It showed me what an amazing father he would be and proved what an amazing husband he already was. We’re in the ‘unexplained infertility’ category, but I believe we’re much older than you. The insurance, when it comes to fertility, in this county is crap. I had the BEST coverage until I had to change jobs. A good clinic will work with you. Mine has been particularly kind and patient and has also offered different ways to qualify for certain things. I don’t know, I guess my point Is, don’t focus on the goal because you’ll lose time. It’s easy to become OBSESSED with it but life is still happening. When all is said and done, even with a child, your love and relationship with your husband will get you through it so at least try to enjoy that part of it. You’ll never believe how many people magically become pregnant the minute they relax. You have more time than you know. I wish you the best of luck!!
4 years never did testing since my husband and I married young. After baby one we had no issues with two and three. Your feelings are valid thank you for talking about it. 2%club!
I'm part of that 2%. Two and a half years, six iuis, dye study, endometriosis laparascopy, and a DNC later, and still no baby. Everything looks "pristine" according to my doctor so we don't know why. I'm in a tiny minority of my friend group that hasn't transitioned into parenthood; of our collected siblings, my husband and I are the only ones without kids. It feels like everyone is leaving us behind, and the process is so dehumanizing and exhausting.
I'm so sorry this is part of your story too. I hope '21 brings you motherhood and peace. You aren't alone in this.
Hi, I'm one of the 2%. It's a weird mental space to be. It can feel like failure on so many levels and how can you not take it personally? It's hard not to hope because the disappointment and the grief can be too much. So much mourning for that happier alternate timeline.
The percentages can sometimes feel too low but there are successes. Fertility doctors all have pictures of cute babies and grateful thank you notes. I have friends who have children through IUI and IVF. But not me. We were considering one more round of IUI but then covid came. Taking out the last hormone injection in the fridge to make room for groceries in April was a bit of a mindfuck. Some days I'm fine, other moments it sucks so much.
I hope the folks at your clinic are good to you and your spouse. Look at the diversity of folks at the clinic - you're all there for the same reason. See what your spouse thinks about the clinic's wank room and porn collection. I hope you get the support you need. Infertility is apparently a great excuse to eat all the pineapple you want if you're into that. I hope you get all the kids you want.
I only know you as a Wendy’s Twitter social media manager and that’s it until now. I have a ground rule that keeps me always in line and understand life and it says “ Do your best to control the things that you do have control over and leave the rest and it will find its place don’t worry about something you can’t control” I know this is easy for me to as I haven’t gone through it and I’m young whose priority is not to have kids now but as much as cliche it sounds I just wanna say you got this 💙
*hugs*. Celebrate the hardships you've gone through, that prove your resolve. Celebrate all that's unique about you; versus friends/acquaintances who, while possibly reproductively prolific, can't hold a candle to your other accomplishments. Finally, ask Benny for his opinion, an opinion I'm guessing will be immediately returned from a place of unreserved love.
Hi — I found this article via your Sprinklr drama and I’m so glad I did. I’m 38 and a half and my husband and I have been trying for 2 years —I’ve been pregnant twice, both miscarriages. I start IVF in April and there’s not one minute of one day I’m not angry and ashamed and terrified. But I somehow ended up in your comment thread because your article spoke to me. The paragraph about feeling superior to your high school friends for getting out of your hometown and now wondering what they know that you don’t...man that hit home for me. I just want to say I feel exactly the same way and this whole thing is hard and it sucks so much and I don’t have a baby yet so I can’t be like “I’m a success story!” but you aren’t alone. And fuck those Sprinklr fucks. I’m @elizabethcauvel on Twitter if you want to be friends.
Having been thru an infertility journey that sounds very similar to this I will say it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I now have a 5 year old so it worked out for me but I was prepared for it to not and finally got to a place of peace about it. Best of luck on this and I hope for the best possible outcome for you and for peace with it. It is incredibly difficult (way more so than the natural childbirth I did later) and isolating. Thanks for sharing that bit of your world
Married at 39, 2 miscarriages, 6 embroys that failed to thrive, one that failed to stick. Depression, heartache, absolute, utter pain. And then suddenly, spontaneously concieve at 43, and then become a mother. It can and does happen. I credit my naturopath and my acupuncturist, and walking out of a toxic job. And tons and tons of inositol. I've literally never said any of this on the internet. Just want you take heart. 2%!!!
I don’t want to say the wrong thing but I want to say so much...The journey is hard but in a very weird way, will bring you closer to yourself and your husband than you ever knew possible. Some of my best, happiest, funniest moments with my husband have been going through our fertility journey together. We laughed so hard at some of the insanity of all of it. Getting up crazy early for daily monitoring, the time I forgot to get the cup in advance so he had to do ‘his part’ at the office, his competitive nature when it comes to how many viable swimmers he has, what we used to call ‘my vagina pills’ because My progesterone was low I had to take it vaginally...lol! I don’t know if it was a conscious decision to ‘make it fun,’ but we did. It showed me what an amazing father he would be and proved what an amazing husband he already was. We’re in the ‘unexplained infertility’ category, but I believe we’re much older than you. The insurance, when it comes to fertility, in this county is crap. I had the BEST coverage until I had to change jobs. A good clinic will work with you. Mine has been particularly kind and patient and has also offered different ways to qualify for certain things. I don’t know, I guess my point Is, don’t focus on the goal because you’ll lose time. It’s easy to become OBSESSED with it but life is still happening. When all is said and done, even with a child, your love and relationship with your husband will get you through it so at least try to enjoy that part of it. You’ll never believe how many people magically become pregnant the minute they relax. You have more time than you know. I wish you the best of luck!!
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4 years never did testing since my husband and I married young. After baby one we had no issues with two and three. Your feelings are valid thank you for talking about it. 2%club!
I'm part of that 2%. Two and a half years, six iuis, dye study, endometriosis laparascopy, and a DNC later, and still no baby. Everything looks "pristine" according to my doctor so we don't know why. I'm in a tiny minority of my friend group that hasn't transitioned into parenthood; of our collected siblings, my husband and I are the only ones without kids. It feels like everyone is leaving us behind, and the process is so dehumanizing and exhausting.
I'm so sorry this is part of your story too. I hope '21 brings you motherhood and peace. You aren't alone in this.
Hi, I'm one of the 2%. It's a weird mental space to be. It can feel like failure on so many levels and how can you not take it personally? It's hard not to hope because the disappointment and the grief can be too much. So much mourning for that happier alternate timeline.
The percentages can sometimes feel too low but there are successes. Fertility doctors all have pictures of cute babies and grateful thank you notes. I have friends who have children through IUI and IVF. But not me. We were considering one more round of IUI but then covid came. Taking out the last hormone injection in the fridge to make room for groceries in April was a bit of a mindfuck. Some days I'm fine, other moments it sucks so much.
I hope the folks at your clinic are good to you and your spouse. Look at the diversity of folks at the clinic - you're all there for the same reason. See what your spouse thinks about the clinic's wank room and porn collection. I hope you get the support you need. Infertility is apparently a great excuse to eat all the pineapple you want if you're into that. I hope you get all the kids you want.
I only know you as a Wendy’s Twitter social media manager and that’s it until now. I have a ground rule that keeps me always in line and understand life and it says “ Do your best to control the things that you do have control over and leave the rest and it will find its place don’t worry about something you can’t control” I know this is easy for me to as I haven’t gone through it and I’m young whose priority is not to have kids now but as much as cliche it sounds I just wanna say you got this 💙
*hugs*. Celebrate the hardships you've gone through, that prove your resolve. Celebrate all that's unique about you; versus friends/acquaintances who, while possibly reproductively prolific, can't hold a candle to your other accomplishments. Finally, ask Benny for his opinion, an opinion I'm guessing will be immediately returned from a place of unreserved love.